COMFORT ZONE!

Hello sweethearts...so I decided to be blogging only when I have something important to say and who knew it would be this soon before my next post! Let me start with a big shout out to my incredible friend who got his blogging inspiration from here and boy does he have a lot to say! Check his blog out and have a few laughs... https://dylansaintking.wordpress.com/2016/03/09/welcome-to-the-madhouse/ I finally let go of my pink fetish and trust me changing this blog's appearance was quite the challenge because I saw no serious fault in it which brings me to today's topic, COMFORT ZONES!
I won't be too harsh since I am a victim of leaning toward my comfort zones a bit too much. I know you think you are innocent...Think again love...GUILTY!!! Example time! You have been in an unhappy relationship for quite some time but since you have never been single you put up with all that shit. It applies for also you who have been single forever just playing it safe with that silly excuse 'I am not ready for a commitment blah blah blah...' Sorry to burst your bubble booboo, you are what we call a wimp! Yeah I said it! Everybody enjoys the feeling of love so here I am,( inexperienced as I am) telling you to snap back to reality and realize that you ain't immortal and that comfort zone phase is not going to make you grow in all the aspects of your life.
I was chatting with a couple of beautiful ladies today and they opened up to me that due to the numerous heartbreaks they have had, when they are in a relationship, they do not put their all. Their exact words were; 'One foot in, and the other waaay out!' At first it was fun to giggle and agree with them and then I realized that that is exactly how relationships end within a short time. The Betty Kyalo story popped in my head immediately after that convo. Oh quick recap; rumor has it that the couple is calling it quits due to infidelity on Okari's side. I am a journalist so I have to update my readers with the latest grapevine but then again, I ain't sure of how true that is. However, why they came into my head is because cheating does not begin after marriage and for a couple that dated for 6 plus years, she must have picked up on some of the signs of cheating but chose to ignore because hey, social media is commending their relationship and to be honest she felt comfortable with all the silent jeers vouching for them. Anyway, since I am a lover of love, I do hope the rumors are very untrue!
So back to the one foot in vibe, in my opinion I think this encourages cheating and short-term relationships. Why? simply because it's like you have a backup plan! He pisses you off and you don't talk for a week, you are okay because plan B is flirting with you and telling you all the sweet stuff you want to hear! trust me, you are not doing your heart any favor! Ever heard of the phrase 'The heart wants what it wants?' It acts like it has a mind of its own. I don't know how many will relate; you focus so hard on forgetting the guy/girl who hurt you by hooking up with other people (hooking up in this case means first base dating-don't get it twisted loves) but all you can think about is the person that hurts you or the person who doesn't like you as much. it's the madness of the heart trust me. It sucks but it eventually goes, not as fast as you may want it to go but it will go. My sweet people, don't be with someone because you pity the fact that you are their comfort zone...do them a favor and redirect them to this blog. It will be more subtle and will save you some explaining! (Marketing skills on fleek)  Here is a song that really encourages me to take risks hope it has the same effect to you as well! Oh! And do take in the inspirational quotes!

Well, I guess it's time for me to sign off and I really value your opinion on the few changes up in here so feel free to comment and give me a few pointers! All in all, I know it is really hard to get out of your comfort zone and it's okay to be scared from time to time because it simply means that you are about to do something really brave so go ahead and be brave love and always remember that if something doesn't challenge your thoughts, actions and heart, it doesn't build you at all! PS:  Till next post...Kisses***

HARSH REALITY

My people! First Post of the year!! Wohooo! You know why I love you so much? Because you are the most super understanding readers and the fact that most of you have bashed me on my inconsistency, tells me that you are actually interested in my posts so thank you all!! So today, let me shake things up a little and talk about the extreme partying nature instilled in our generation...couldn't have picked a better time  than this. Why you may ask? Project X is just days away and there is a great debate on whether the expose that has been seen in our TV screens will hinder it from happening. Well sadly, it will still happen and the funny thing is that the event has been happening for a couple of years now. I do not want to dwell on it so much but that was the main trigger for this post.
The problem with our generation is that we are short-term thinkers. Yeah, I said it. We just think about what will benefit us now some sort of temporary thrill not thinking of the future repercussions. What do I mean? You go to University, get to a clique and adapt to whatever the clique does without question. Are already visualizing someone in such a situation? If not, let's narrow the search some more; girl meets boy-boy is into some bad habits-girl tolerates-girl becomes a part of the bad habit. In these two examples there is clearly no thought behind how one's future can be tainted with just one wrong move.

Back to the Project X story, the girls in that poster did not think beyond posing and looking sexy in a photo. They did not think that the police would actually be tracking them down, did they? Now what they are facing is what I call the harsh reality! You never see it coming. It is all fun and games until s**t hits the roof! How many selfies have you uploaded that you might be so embarassed to show your kids in future? A ton,huh? well, you may not have uploaded them yourself but you are tagged in them (you do know that is still visible to the public nowadays, right?) Oh! I have a quick question, those photographers that take pictures in clubs and post them on FB later, ever wondered what extent of ratchet pictures they have in store for a rainy day? Most of us may not have been victims of blackmail yet but why put yourself in such a compromising position in the first place?
The other problem with our generation is the 'me factor' where everything is all about YOU as a person and you do not care about implicating others as long as YOU are happy. I have read endless articles saying that only-children have a tendency to be selfish and self-centered but guess what? Our generation as a whole is proving that theory wrong day in day out because we are all selfish in our own right. When you are hurt by your boyfriend/girlfriend for example what is the first thing you do? You reproach them with so much anger and evidence of their faults forgetting that you are also not the saint you claim to be. When you are out with your friends and you get too drunk to the point you are hospitalized with alcohol poisoning, do you think the person in that same ward suffering from a chronic disease wants to be there listening to the stories of how you got wasted? I hope you are seeing the bigger picture now. That's harsh reality number two; it's not all about you and it will never be!
 Okay now it's time to tone down and drive my point home. I am not saying that you should stop drinking or partying but if you can trust me, it's for the better. All I am saying is that this is the time to put your best foot forward and hustle like never before. I want you to reason like this: When you are getting your little internship salary and draining it on booze and parting what is the CEO of that company doing with his millions of dollars? When the CEO is getting up at 4:00am, are you the guy being chased from the club to go sleep at that time? You and I are still the brains and the brawn of this nation so don't misplace your priorities.  I don't know about you but I would rather hustle now in my twenties so that when I am in my thirties, I am my own boss sipping on expensive tastes such as Henri IV Dudognon Heritage Cognac and Tequila Ley that won't land me on a ditch somewhere. You should definitely think big but don't forget to think far and wide loves because when you think short term, harsh reality will definitely catch up and hit you hard!
Kisses***